For most people, to have a peaceful and loving
relationship, filled with warmth and contentment, and free of fighting and
tension, is enough. Many couples spend years or decades learning how to create
that level of experience. Some go through one or more divorces before finally
figuring out how to have that kind of relationship with an equal match.
Yet, for some, it's not enough. For them, there
is a deep yearning from the soul to invoke every opportunity life can offer in
order to come to the fullest expression of the divine self. This is a noble
ambition, not easily done alone.. An intimate, committed relationship provides
the most fertile ground for this endeavor. For it is in relationship that we are
faced time and time again with a direct reflection of our self, and therefore
with an opportunity to become more aware, more conscious of who and what we are.
And who and what we are is big...very big.
Within each of us is a whole constellation, or
family of "selves", or sub-personalities, all vying for attention and
actualization. Some of them are at odds with each other. Many get into conflict
with our partners and other people. Typically in relationships, in order
to create peace and a comfortable compatibility, we tame or repress some of
those inner selves. Some of them we seem to outright suffocate or lock away,
especially the ones that stir up feelings in our partners, like selfishness,
flirtatiousness, sensuality, adventurousness, intellect, shyness or playfulness.
We reduce our many selves down to the few that keep things safe and predictable.
Some of our remaining selves do that by keeping people away or quiet. People can
go on in very loving and long-term relationships like this. And there are many
who will envy them.
However, there is an extremely exciting and
rewarding alternative. The alternative is to use relationship of all kinds and
especially a partnership as a constant source of challenge, as a teacher, as a
guide in our own soul's personal evolution of consciousness. In this model, we
don't just settle for maintaining the contented status quo, we welcome each new
interaction, particularly the uncomfortable ones, as a new possibility for
growth and we view relationship as a never-ending journey of discovery.
It is possible we have an infinite amount of
selves within us. Each has something to teach us. Each offers our soul a new
richness of experience and perception in being human in this world. Each, when
brought to awareness in healing intention and expressed with conscious
authenticity, can be a new adventure and source of creativity in relation with
our partner's selves. As we become more and more deeply involved with a soul in
another human being, relationship stimulates more and more of these selves to
"come out and play".
When two people find the divine spark inside and
between them and can journey forth in their relationship with this
awareness, and they can trust their intention to discover the highest
expressions and gifts of each of these myriad inner selves, the tendency for
synergy and creativity with the beloved other grows exponentially. The
possibilities are limitless, the rewards divine, and the relationship sacred.
Their relationship becomes a creative gift to the world, touching and
influencing other souls to blossom and become, with them, conscious co-creators
of all our world.
This is what we desire for ourselves and our
"selves" and for you.
Ways To Work With Us
There are several ways you can schedule work with
us in person or by phone or Skype, depending on your location and the urgency of
your desires. We are available for a free consultation to help you decide which
approach is best for you.
Regularly Scheduled In-Person Sessons- 90 minute
sessions, scheduled on a periodic basis (eg, weekly, semi-weekly, etc)
Obviously easy for those local to Madison, WI.
Regularly Scheduled Phone or Skype Sessons-
90 minute sessions, scheduled on a periodic basis (eg, weekly, semi-weekly,
etc) Great for those who live too far to travel. Also good as follow ups
for those who have worked with us in person.
All-Day Intensives - You spend eight hours each
day for one or more days. For example, an entire day each week for three weeks
or three days in a row or variations of days and timing. You make your own
overnight arrangements. This can work for locals or those who travel. The
extended all day sessions help accelerate healing, awareness and learning.
Residential Overnight Intensives - You spend three to four
days and nights with us in our home*.
The work is done during virtually all waking hours, though there is time built
in for resting and privacy. Though intense, this is the most powerful and
accelerated way to make progress as we are there to bring our skilled awareness
to the rhythms of your full-day cycles of inner and outer experience.
Astrology Readings- We highly ecourage couples to receive individual astrology birth chart readings from Barry as a beginning point for understanding the soul-level dynamics in the individual and between the partners. We reference this information at various times in the coaching. (readings are $150, and not absolutely required)
$150 per 90 minute session with both Barry AND Kristine.
$100 per 90 minute session with Barry OR Kristine.
include bed and private room, meditative space, walking path, a full-body work-out room, and a hot tub. For overnights, please bring your own toiletries. Towels, meals, and bedding
provided. Meals are sometimes prepared by you or all of us as
part of your experiential training.